Learn all you can about your child’s special needs
Information is power, and parents need to start with the facts about their child’s special needs. Try and keep emotion out of it; parents need to have fact-based knowledge from their child’s doctors, specialists, special education experts, parents of kids with similar special needs, attorneys, teachers, and anyone else who can provide information.
Ask lots of questions and listen to answers
Become like a reporter: Ask questions like, “who, what, where, when, why and when” and then listen carefully to the answers you receive. Research relevant questions and then document responses instead of simply relying on your memory. Learn how to best ask questions and don’t come across as antagonistic or defensive to get the best open and honest replies.
Become a “pseudo-lawyer” in special education law
Parents of special education kids don’t truly need to become lawyers; however, it is good to become extremely knowledgeable about special education law. Learn the details behind the federal law that effectively created special education, now known as the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA).