Social Groups
Sometimes joining social groups that are not focused on support can help you make connections and friendships that can then turn into sources of support. For example, join a ski club, a hobby club, a book club, or a church group. Starting here will help you build a social network that you can turn to in times of need.
There are hundreds of other ways to find support, but it can be hard to come up with ideas when you are dealing with a crisis.
Instead of trying to find support when you are under stress, make it a priority to think of ways to build support when you are not in a crisis. Where can you meet caring people who might make good friends?
For example, consider volunteering, or other activities where you will meet people who care about the well-being of others. Once you have some ideas, push yourself to actually try some of these activities. You will be surprised at how quickly you can start to build a social support network when you push yourself to get to know people.
Some people with BPD have few friends because the symptoms of the disorder have gotten in the way of friendships. Others have friends but have difficulty reaching out to them for support. If you don’t have enough friends, keep reading for ideas on how to find and build friendships. But, if you do have some friends, consider leaning on them for support occasionally if you don’t already.