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when the holidays hurt

Don’t completely isolate yourself from other people.
Allow yourself space to acknowledge your loss and the pain it has produced, but do not let yourself use the loss as an excuse to escape through alcohol or other addictive substances.

If a particular ritual is just too painful to try and continue this year, accept that there are limits to what you are capable of doing and forgive yourself for that.
Create a special new ritual that honors the person who is no longer with you.

Light a special candle and offer a silent or spoken tribute to this person.
Add a special decoration to your collection and display it in this person’s honor.
Choose a special recipe that was always a favorite and prepare it each year – saying a special prayer in their honor before consuming it.