worst things to say to someone who is depressed

  1. “What’s your problem?”

  2. “Will you stop that constant whining? What makes you think that anyone cares?”

  3. “Have you gotten tired yet of all this me-me-me stuff?”

  4. “You just need to give yourself a kick in the rear.”

  5. “But it’s all in your mind.”

  6. “I thought you were stronger than that.”

  1. “No one ever said life was fair.”

  2. “As you get stronger you won’t have to wallow in it as much.”

  3. “Pull yourself up by your bootstraps.”

  4. “Do you feel better now?”(Usually said following a five minute conversation in which the speaker has asked me “what’s wrong?” and “would you like to talk about it?” with the best of intentions, but absolutely no under-standing of depression as anything but an irrational sadness.)

  1. “Why don’t you just grow up?”

  2. “Stop feeling sorry for yourself.”

  3. “There are a lot of people worse off than you?”

  4. “You have it so good, why aren’t you happy?”

  5. “It’s a beautiful day!”

  6. “You have so many things to be thankful for, why are you depressed!”

  7. “What do you have to be depressed about”.

  8. “Happiness is a choice”